Love, as St. Paul puts it, at its purest of human expression is selfless. The more a person acts with unselfish intention, the purer the quality and degree of love in his heart. The more a person’s concerns are with self benefit, the greater the corruption of the quality and degree of love in his heart. The quality and degree of love as humanly expressed is therefore a function of the quality and degree of love of one’s self.
The quality and degree of love of one’s self rests on a continuum of extremes; from the narcissus quality, self adoration of one’s attractive, physical features, intellectual capacities, or any personal attribute exclusively related to status, achievement, or personal power, to the quality of the nature of truth, pure and bright, universality and unity. And between these extremes rests innumerable permutations of the expressions of love.
Therefore, to love one’s self in its purest form means that you have put aside personal benefit for the benefit of others. Your thoughts and actions would have been freed of all selfishness. You would have recognized your connection to the Source of Love within your heart, and totally desired to become a living conduit for its expression. You would have also recognized that all of your physical and mental qualities are only temporary attributes needed to direct your life to the Source of Love. Any obsessive mental attachment to these temporary, personal attributes, regardless of their seeming magnificence, is a form of self-conceit, and would directly diminish the quality and degree of love you could express. Love, truly expressed is given unconditionally, without any hidden agenda.
At this point of time you are probably saying to yourself, “What you have said is all well and good, but that pure quality of love can only be expressed by saints, Jesus, Buddha, and their like. Being an ordinary human my quality of love expression is minuscule in comparison to the pure quality of love.” My replay, “I can only agree with you, but if Jesus and Buddha can achieve the purest expression of love so can we.” “How can that be true?” you rebut, “There is a light year’s gap between me and Jesus or Buddha.” My replay “The gap may even be larger than your estimate.”
Even though the gap between our current expression of love and that of Jesus and Buddha’s is massive, we are not automatically dismissed from achieving their quality of love. Here is why. Jesus and Buddha incarnated into earth as human beings, having the same human make up as us, although having far greater spiritual development. We both have the divine Self as the essential core to our beings. However they had evolved and realized their divine Self, thereby living and moving in complete unity with their Higher Self. We have not as yet evolved enough spiritual knowledge to bring ourselves to pure love expression, but it is within our capacity. What we presently lack is a clear vision of purpose and the determination and will to attain pure love. So to help dispose the haze that surrounds a difficult choice, and that signals you are on the right course ask yourself this question: “Which choice pleases, and which choice fosters long-term good?” With each choice you will have a clear indication whether you are moving towards pure love of yourself or away. (to get a deeper understanding go to my blog archives and click on “you are the face of god”)