sayings and comment 2

Words are the fog one has to see through. (Zen Buddhist)


Words are not mere puffs of wind shaped by the tongue, but are alive.  Although we have a developed lexicon to tract their meaning, their essential force, power, and life comes from the desire and intent of the human being who speaks them.  When someone intends to mislead, he takes words out of context and forms them in a manner that misleads the original intended content, implanting his own intention.  We see this kind of derailing of original intention into a misleading meaning, happening every day on T.V. ads; they fill the airways. The use of transplanting context usually comes under the heading of “rhetoric,” (artificial eloquence;  showiness and elaboration in language), but its use, more accurately, should come under “propaganda,” (ideas, doctrines or allegations used disparagingly to connote deception or distortion).

I wrote a poem called, “Wasted Words, ” that will, I believe, help dissolve the “fog of words:”

Hold your tongue and listen a minute, to the great avalanche of words entering your ears.

Day and night, words are pumped out through mouths in rapid-fire succession.

Where once they were used sparingly and with care, now derelict of truth they spew out faster than a machine gun, with little care and little heart.

Words wasted as if there were an infinite supply; mere puffs of of wind, traveling the air and dying off as smoke.   But where do they disappear?

Do they reverberate through the canyons of space like some eternal echo?

Do they completely dissolve into emptiness?

Do they gather at some cosmic point and there mark their selves on some universal ledger?

Every word and its intent imprints upon the cosmic waters.  There every curse, every boast, every syllable, every atom of sound lives and follows its path to effect.  There is no escape, not under the sun, nor atop the highest mountain.  Its is your breath that breathes them out and they will seek their effect directed by your will.

Thunder is the voice of lighting and responds only to the bolt-never more never less.

What would the world be like if all humans spoke as succinctly?

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , , | 1 Comment

sayings with a comment

“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.”  (Plato)

COMMENT:  A child not yet invested with his full complement of rational capacities can be easily frighten, especially in the dark.  In the dark, where our out stretched hand cannot be seen, presents our imagination with many fearful possibilities.  My first frightful experience was in a dark movie theater, watching The Wizard of Oz; when the Wicked Witch of the West suddenly pop on to the screen, with her  green face, large crooked nose, and menacing laugh.  I bet almost all of you adults can relate.

The idea of human beings tragically afraid of the light, can be explained by a consideration of their spiritual side.  The light side represents a chosen path leading to liberation and unification with the Source.  The dark side, is where 90% of the time we live and have our identity, as Darth Vader said,  there is great, …”power in the dark side.”  The reason we have blinders on in relationship to the light side is because we know, in our soul, that in order to follow the light path we must renounce, the pleasures and the pain of the dark side.  We, in truth are not ready to renounce the status quo.  It is too frightening.

Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

doing something positive to help our country’s problems

Have you felt impotent  and frustrated over your personal inability to effectively resolve the deep problems currently existing in our country?  Do you sincerely desire to do something positive to help alleviate those problems within our country?

There is a way .  It is simple, effective, and resides in the power of the spoken word.  Some call it prayer, some affirmation,  some invocation, but all that use it know of its power to effect results.

Below is a prayer or call it what you may, intended to inspire a sense of peace, and a feeling of brotherhood in the hearts of those that say it.  All that is required of you to help resolve the troubles in our country is to sincerely say the prayer as often as you like, and if you believe it is a valuable idea, share it with friends and family.  Just image a prayer linking thousands or perhaps tens of thousands of human minds all focused on the same ideas of brotherhood and peace.  If the old saying that, ‘God an one man can conquer the world,’ has any truth, just think what God and tens of thousands of humans can accomplish.  Gandhi said, “If you want to change the world, be the change.”


In whose breath we live, move, and have our being.  We ask for courage and wisdom to change our path, point us to truth and shape that truth into brotherhood and peace.

We have lost our way and our sense of our true self.  We force and press following selfish ambitions, hurting our earth, our children and ourselves.

We need to halt our damning impulses; we need to rest and allow earth to rest.

Let there be peace in the sky, and in the atmosphere.

Let there be peace in the plant world and in the forests.

Let there be peace in our hearts.

*Insert, on the blank line above, any name and adjective of divinity that relates to you.

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , | Leave a comment

karma, the universal law

The word “karma” is the normative form of the Sanskrit word, “karman,” literally meaning, doing or making; action. The ancient and current cultural user of the Sanskrit word most assuredly understood karman in its most universal and comprehensive connotations.  However, its meaning and usage particularly in our country has been greatly modified, owing to the relative freshness of its association with our culture.  What has been generally accepted of this comprehensive, universal law is a rather narrow and hazy expression of its moral effects causing “good” or “bad” karma.  In the New Testament, Galatians 6:7, we read the familiar quote, …”whatsoever a man shall sow that also shall he reap”…, and more contemporaneously, “If you want to dance, you must pay the band.”  In the lexicon of our language there is no equivalent word for “karma,” only paragraph upon paragraph of explanation.

Although the concept of karma has always been held through the entire history of our country, by isolated groups and individuals, its has never quite flowed into the mainstream of our nation’s belief system.  Today however, a fringe element of the concept of karma has infiltrated our cultural mind.  Its awakening has come about because of a growing interest in Eastern religions and philosophies.  That is not to say that the East has originated the concept of karma.  The East has simply embraced karma as a fundamental doctrine most closely related to their spiritual bend of mind.  Karma is not indigenous to any specific culture.  In truth, it is more a principle or universal law than a developed philosophical doctrine.  It is analogous to the scientific principle of gravity, where its application and manifestation is taken as an immutable scientific law.  Karma is however, far more universal in its application, and virtually infinite in  its expression.

The keynote of karma is balance and harmony.  Nature works incessantly to restore equilibrium wherever it is disturbed. Science knows of this balance/reaction as the law of cause and effect; that every action and reaction are equal and opposite.  Science focuses its attention exclusively on the phenomenal causes and effects or the outside wrappings of our world.  Karma’s focus is on the comprehensive world, the outside and the inside, unerringly considering all planes: the physical, psychic, moral, and spiritual.  Karma considers human beings to be the initiator’s of their own causes, and as such directly responsible for the consequences of those causes.  Every desire, thought, word, and deed is karmaicly tied to the initiator.   The American poet, Emerson, intuitively describes the workings of the Law of Karma with regard to the merit side:

“If you love and serve men, you cannot by any hiding or stratagem escape the remuneration.  Secret retributions are always restoring the level, when disturbed, of the divine justice.  It is impossible to tilt the beam.  All the tyrants and proprietors of the world in vain set their shoulders to heave the bar.  Settles forevermore the ponderous equator to its line, and man, and mote, and star, and sun, must range to it or be pulverized by the recoil.”

In one of the passages of the “Darmmapada,” (one of the most authoritative and respected scriptures of the Hinayana School of Buddhism), comment is made on the demerit side of the karmic ledger:

“Not in the sky, not in the midst of the sea, not if we enter into the cliffs of the mountains, is there known a spot in the wide world where a man my be free from an evil deed.”

Another descriptive portrait of karma in operation can be found in Charles Dickens’ story, “A Christmas Carol.”  Especially in the beginning chapter were Ebenezer Scrooge’s deceased partner, Jacob Marley, who in life was a greedy, mean, unsympathetic man, forged his life thought by thought, deed by deed.

“You are fettered,” said Scrooge, “Tell me why?”

“I wear the chain I forged in life,” replied Marley’s ghost.

“I made it link by link, and yard by yard, I girded it on of my free will, and of my own free will I wore it.”

When a human acts, he acts through an expenditure of his own native energy.  His actions put into motion energy which brings forth either an instantaneous or delayed reaction, and that reaction in turn impacts his immediate environment, and Nature in general.  In other words, Nature reacts either against or in accord the impact of a human’s expended, native energy, and the combination of these two causative and reactive energies is what is called,”karman.”

Karma, as an active principle, is all-embracing.  It goes beyond the idea of moral retribution to incorporate causes, (physical, psychic, spiritual), put into motion by all of Nature, from atom to star.  Nothing escapes this great law, for it operates within the infinite breath of Universal Nature.

In anticipation of an argument coming from the reader/thinker which would go something like this: ‘Karma cannot stand the test of unfailing and universal justice or can it reconciliate the terrible injustices that befall on the human race, under the above definition.  Also there seems to be no advancement, progress, or even regression, only the eternal wheel of pleasure and pain.’ Here is an answer to that argument.  The remedy for the argument lies in the doctrine of reimbodiment.  The doctrine of karma perfectly correlates to the doctrine of reimbodiment.  Karma says, that causes set into motion by us or any entity, atom or star, will reap their effects, unerringly.  Reimbodiment says, that in order to balance and harmonize all effects of all thoughts, words, desires, actions, put into motion in any one life time takes many life times.  Karma and reimbodiment assures us, all humanity, of the application of perfect justice, throughout the course of time.  The combined doctrines remedy the seemingly injustices of the world, and clearly portrays Universal Nature’s supreme attribute of compassion.

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged , | Leave a comment

the karma of a pure act

This is a story of the effect of karma related to a pure act, (an act done without attachment or any  hidden agenda), done by me.  As part of a background to this story, I want to explain an affinity I have with American Indians.  It started when I was about seven.  I was at a movie theater with my father watching a movie about Jim Thorpe, a great American Indian athlete, in track and field, football, and baseball;   the movie starred Burt Lancaster, as Jim Thorpe.  In the opening scene  a young Jim Thorpe, about seven, was running, full tilt across a wide field, jumping over creeks and hurdling log fences.  Seeing that young boy running so joyfully and in complete freedom immediately attached me to the boy, his enjoyment and freedom, and his Indianess.   This attachment has had an enduring affect on me.  I grew up on the South Side of Chicago where there was few open fields to run in, creeks to jump, or log fences to hurdle.  However, I knew joy and freedom, when my friend Tim Brennin and I raced every block on our way to school.  We had equal speed, and the winner of the race would always be the one who would start the race with the words ” ready-set-go.”  As for jumping and hurdling, the closest I came was climbing to the roof of a garage and jumping off, and a one arm flip over a neighbors’ fence, or a two arm flip over a mail box.  When watching Cowboy or Cavalry and Indians Movies, I always empathise with the Indians: their horse-men-ship, their nobility, and their fearlessness; even though my greatest hero was a cowboy named, Roy Rogers.

As I got older my affinity grew stronger by reading books like, “Black Elk Speaks,” “The Memoirs of Chief Red Fox,” “The Education of Little Tree,” “The Man Who Killed the Deer,” and many others.  My empathy also gained strength, when I move to Minnesota in 1970, and became interested in the history, culture, and spiritual practices of the local Indian tribes: the Dakota, Lakota, Mdewakanton, Ogalala.

It was my step-son Albert who brought me into the Mdewakanton community of Shakopee.  Albert did work for some of the Indian families on the reservation, and over a period of years he became a trusted worker on the reservation.  I was having chronic pain  in my right hip-joint.  I asked Albert if he would ask his friends on the reservation if they knew anyone who could perform a healing ritual.  My alterative to a healing ritual was having total hip replacement surgery, so I was highly motivated to participate in the less invasive healing ritual.  Albert found an Indian named Jerry, who was the pastor of an Indian/Christian Church on the reservation, and gave me his phone number.   I phoned Jerry, and set up an appointment.

Jerry did not live on the reservation, but in a house in Shakapee, Mn.  On my way to his house I happened to see a Bald Eagle flying west in the same direction I was traveling.  This I took as a favorable and reinforcing sign.  At the door, Jerry and his wife meet me and welcomed me in.  Jerry showed me to a lounge chair, and before I sat down he put a colorful, blanket with Indian symbols around my shoulders, then I sat down in the chair.  He asked me what it was that needed healing.  I told him it was my right hip.  He walked around me saying prayers in an Indian language.  I believe he was invoking the powers of the North, East, South, and West plus the Great Spirit in my healing.  Then he began to fire up a bundle of sage, and smoked me with the sage from head to foot and side to side, while saying prayers.  The healing ritual had now been completed. We then spend time talking about our individual lives in relation to our spiritual paths.

I had four additional healing session with Jerry.  I must say that I was feeling better, and my pain was more bearable.  On my last session, I had brought a gift for Jerry.  It had been a print that was given to me by my daughter for my birthday. It was mounted on a wood board, that was trimmed with a dull red paint.   It was created by an American Indian named, Nakoma, and was called, “The Circle is My Path.”  It was written in verse, and was a blend of poetry and prose, with drawings of Native Indians and the animals found in North America.  It is a kind of autobiography, and spiritual evolution of Nakoma.  Here is a taste, one verse of its poetry and prose: “We are all on the rim of the world and at its center at the same time.  We are attached to the ripples that emanate from the center- life is so.  We ride the waves – the wind turns us.  We flow as the prairie flows, and we are bound to the sacred land- walking our path in a sacred manner.”  I loved that print.  It had brought me great joy, insight and understanding.  Truthfully, I struggled intensely with myself  to give it up, but in the end I was able to release all attachments to it, and give it to Jerry with a pure heart of gratitude.

Two years after I had my last healing session with Jerry, I attended, along with my wife and step-son Albert, a Pow Wow, on the Mystic Lake Cassino complex.  It was a North American gathering of Indian, dancers.  The dancers would compete for prizes  There were also tents where food was sold, and various arts and crafts were displayed and for sale.  As we were looking at the various arts and crafts displayed in the tents,  I found a tent with, not only arts and crafts, but also historical artifacts and portraits of old chiefs.  One of my deep affinities was with an Ogalala, Indian named Crazy Horse.  I have a strong desire to draw Crazy Horse, but could not find a portrait of him in any of my references.  I thought this might be a good place to ask about a portrait of Crazy Horse.

My eyes set on a short, middle-aged man, black hair in a ponytail. and a thin black mustache, who I assumed was the owner.  I moved to where the man was standing and asked if he had a portrait of Crazy Horse.  He said, “Yes,” and I followed him to a corner of the tent, and he pointed to a sketch.   “Is that Crazy Horse?” I asked dubiously, and he said,”Yes, I drew him.”   I asked, “What did you use as a  model?”  He replied, “My imagination.”

I told the owner that I got to know something of Crazy Horse by reading “Black Elk Speaks,” and  the”Memories of Chief Red Fox.”  The owner walked me back to the center of the tent and picked up the book he was currently reading and handed it to me.  It was about Custer’s last stand.  I don’t remember the title.   As I handed the book back to the owner I caught sight of the print, “The Circle is My Path.”  I told the owner that I had had this print and how much I enjoyed it.  He told me that when he created it there was confusion about which direction the verses should be read; he said “That the verses should be read left to right, and not down and up.”  Surprised and excited I said, “Your Nakoma!”  He said “Yes.”  I immediately pushed out my right hand and shook his hand vigorously.  I really wanted to give him a huge.  I told Nakoma the story of my healing sessions with Jerry, and how I gave Jerry my beloved print of “The Circle is My Path.”  Unknown to me at the time, Albert, after hearing my story of giving my copy of the print to Jerry,  had purchased a copy of the print, and Katie, Nakoma’s wife handed me the print.

There in that magical moment, all seeming incidental points were allowed to connect, and I stood with the return of my print, and Nakoma, the creator of the print.  This was the magnifying effect of  the eternal law of karma, initiated by my pure act of gratitude.

If there is any reader that would be interested in purchasing a copy of “The Circle is My Path,” you can contact Nakoma at,

Posted in spirituality | Tagged , , | 3 Comments

our human heritage-god wisdom

The ideas presented here have been gathered and ingested over a period of thirty years.  I can not claim originality, nor full comprehension of these ideas for they were always present in our world, although, behind a veil of ignorance.  What I can claim credit for is having a determined motivation to lift that veil, a little, and let the incoming rays of light wash over my consciousness and expand it, a little.  To expand consciousness on one level is vital, but a relatively small step in an ever progressive advancement towards enlightenment, towards truth, towards liberation.  My above description of progressive, expanding consciousness alludes to Plato’s “Allegory of the Caves,” in his “Republic,” (if interested look into my blog archives for an essay on “The Allegory of the Caves”).

There is an ancient tradition of spiritual knowledge, from a worldview that dates back millions of years, when the gods walked the earth among nascent mankind.  The gods instructed mankind in principles of life, science, and the arts.   These principles claim a Reality underlying life, which rituals cannot reach and which the agency of priests or ceremonies cannot bring forth.  I know, I know, I can hear you readers saying, “Millions of years?  You must be daffy; current science theories and religious interpretations are against you.”  Please! stay with me; placate my seeming mad ravings.  This worldview teaches us that this Reality is the essence of all that is manifested, and sustains the Universe.  It also teaches we are one with this Reality, that this oneness can be realized directly, not after death, but in this life, that realizing this Reality is the ultimate purpose for which we were born, and the aim toward which evolution moves.  These universal principles thus represent our divine heritage, and in total, what may be called the “wisdom of the gods.”  This god-wisdom is the basis for answering our fundamental questions of life: what is our origin, our nature. our purpose, and our destiny.

Lets start like Genesis, in the Old Testament, “In the  beginning”…  In the beginning all that could be manifest began from an ethereal or spiritual form or ideal.  We did not originally appear on this earth totally materialized, within fully evolved human bodies.  We could not call our first spiritual ancestors, human for they had not as yet evolved a material human form.  To give your imagination something to feed on, I will relate a description of our spiritual ancestors given in Plato’s “Dialogues,” “Symposium,” Aristophanes is the speaker: …”First you must learn about the nature of man and the history of it.  Formerly the natural state of man was not what it is now.  For at first there were three sexes, not two as at present, male and female, but also a third having both together; the name remains with us (hermaphrodite), but the thing is gone.  There was then a male-female sex and a name to match, sharing both male and female, but now nothing is left but the title used in reproach.  Next, the shape of man was quite round, back and ribs passing about it in a circle; and he had four arms and an equal number of legs, and two faces on a round neck, exactly alike; there was one head with these two opposites faces, and four ears, and two privy members, and the rest as can be imagined.  They walked upright as now, in which direction they liked; and when they wanted to run fast, they rolled over and over on the ends of the eight limbs they had in those days, as our tumblers tumble now with their legs straight out.  And why there were three sexes, and shaped like this, was because the male was at first-born of the sun, and the female of the earth, and the common sex had something of the moon, which combines both male and female; their shape was round and their going was round because they were like their parents.  They had terrible strength and force and great were their ambitions; they attacked the gods, and it is said of them , that they tried to climb into heaven intending to make war upon the gods”…  Similarities relating to our spiritual origination can be found in the Creation Stories of American Indians, and by the bye, their stories are said to have an antiquity of hundreds of thousands of years.  Also, such similarities can be found in Genesis of the Old Testament, specifically with the explanation of the creation of male and female, if not read literally, but taken as an allegory.   The New Age saying aptly hits the mark in this regard: ‘We are not physical beings having a spiritual experience, but spiritual beings having a physical experience.’

To bring more clarity into a mostly, unfamiliar and cloudy concept of our primary, causal spiritual origination we will change our view and come at the concept from a different angle.  We will call this angle, natural or rational thought.  Most of us have formed a concept of the reality of etherial beings or entities by an association with religion or some ancient or contemporary philosophy or some spiritual teaching.  We therefore have no trouble accepting the reality of gods, angels, devils, demons, ghosts, and a whole host of etherial, disembodied beings and entities.  Now, if we compare etherial entities and beings with materialized, human beings we find that the etherial entities and beings have greater duration then do human beings.   Humans ‘s life duration is on average some seventy to eighty years, while etherial entities and beings in some cases are assigned an immortal duration.  Rationally then, the creation of a materialized, human being would logically be generated from an immortal,  spiritual model and made to evolve physically over an appropriate duration.  This concept ties in perfectly with an ancient Egyptian, Hermetic axiom,  ” as above, so below, as below, so above.”  Don’t tie up your thinking process by taking this axiom literally.  Think of the “above” as the apex of a hierarchy and the “below” as the lowest of the spectrum of extremes, and in between are continuous levels of the middle part of the spectrum.   An example of this would be the case of a painter using a conceptual model in his mind to paint a two-dimensional representation on canvas.  The conceptual ideal in his mind has a more fluid and etherial quality then the static, material canvas representation, but the “above” model is causally related to the “below” and the “below” is likewise related to the “above.”  The evolutionary course is from the highest or “above” to the lowest,
“below,” and not visa versa.  Clearly then, from a rational thinking perspective, our primary origination is from spiritual forces and not from physical forces.  How this reverse generation process changes the meaning of our lives will be part two of this series on ”   our human heritage-god-wisdom,” giving you ample opportunity to mull over the content of this essay.

Posted in Theosophy, Uncategorized | Tagged , , | Leave a comment

lust and love

An area of great confusion appears when ever love and sexual attraction combine.  Human sexual energies are vital, life promoting forces.  They are the voltage or vital pressure in all human relationships.  Because of the strong and powerful potency of sexual energies, it is possible that they can be felt so intensely as to over shadow all other aspects of a person’s life.  Today in our society, great social pressure and emphasis is placed on quickening the mental and physical development of our young.  Our society has become so competitive that we have lost sight of Nature’s precise, unforced rhythm.  We have forsaken Nature’s harmonious beat of life for an upbeat, forced version; one that uses for its marching tune material ambition, domination, and all manner of gratification.  This kind of premature emphasis encourages and rewards our young to exhibit behavioral skills and abilities beyond what they are capable of comprehensively expressing.

Premature attention to sexual development represses the development of the mental and spiritual aspects of human life.  Our young are encouraged and pressured to behave in an adult manner, without the appropriate background of mature reason. The result of this premature pressure toward sexual “adulthood” is an “acting out” or an imitation of established adult sexual behaviors, without the necessary background of experience needed for mastery.  The sexual actions of our young are thus mere imitations, synthetic acts that lack knowledge.  This cultural encouragement of premature mental and physical development forces our young people into sexual situations far beyond their experiential capacity, while at the same time offering little guidance, aside from some sterile educational programs.  The higher mental and spiritual controlling aspects of our young people’s constitution are sadly neglected.

To get a better understanding of the dynamics of sexual energy and love, lets project an imaginary couple, named Jack and Jill.  Jack and Jill, both seniors in high school, first met while attending the same history class.  When Jack first saw Jill his heart jumped with excitement.  Jill’s physical appearance exactly matched Jack’s ideals of what an attractive female should look like; from the style and color of her hair, to the style and color of her shoes.  Jack’s powerful sexual energy now had an objective, but his capacity to love was greatly limited because of his lack of knowledge of himself.  Keep in mind that knowledge of one’s self is not concerned exclusively with name, birth date, outstanding physical attributes. etc., etc., but with knowledge of one’s higher self.  Jack was very fearful that Jill would not respond favorably to his expression of affection.  In short, he was fearful of being rejected.  Yet, his strong sexual energy pushed him toward Jill.  Jack would act silly and playful anytime he was near Jill.  This kind of behavior, he hoped, would make Jill take notice of him.  Spurred on by his sexual energy Jack finally evoked enough courage to talk with Jill.  He found her receptive.  Jill’s receptiveness pushed Jack to take a greater risk.  He asked her out on a date, and Jill accepted the invitation.  Jack was wonderfully excited.  His imagination began to take over.  He imagined all manner of situations where he showed Jill his sterling character, and ultimately would win her heart and her body.  Mostly his imagination focused on sexual fantasies, connected to great displays of manly prowess.

Its seems self-evident, that the initial motivations fueling most relationships are self concepts and sexual energy.  Of course, sexual energy and its expression is directly tied into concepts of self.  This package of self concepts sets the conditions and the limitations of the quality of one’s capacity to love.

Jack’s sexual energies are strong, but his overall conception of himself is weak.  Because of the vital nature of Jack’s sexual energy and its tie to his weak self conception, Jack’s sexual prowess  is suspect and can be easily threatened.  If Jack’s sexual prowess is jeopardized, either real or imagined, his reaction may manifest sever emotions, such as, anger, hatred, revenge, or rage.  The weaker the self conception the stronger the negative reaction.  This is the kind of baggage that Jack brings into the relationship with Jill.

When Jill first saw Jack, she thought he was “cute.”  His tall lean body, sandy hair, and blue eyes corresponded to her ideals of what a male should look like.  She especially was attracted to Jack’s playful, boyish manner.

Jill enjoyed school, and was accomplished in academics, music, and sports.  She had positive conceptions about her abilities to culturally succeed.  In short, Jill had a higher sense of self-esteem than Jack.

When Jack asked Jill for a date her acceptance was based solely on sexual, physical attraction.  She was flattered by his shy, boyish   expressions of affection, and judged that his naive and juvenile behavior made him a “safe” personality to be with.  Although Jill had a strong sense of self-worth, she misguidedly attached great importance to the romantic belief system currently outlined within the culture.  This belief system says females must gain parity with males, with regard to social prestige, through job or career opportunities and achievements, and at the same time must be sexually alluring, and be emotionally sensitive to everyone’s needs.  Jill was trusting, and her ability to express love was of a higher quality than Jack’s.  However, her belief system created conceptual barriers that convoluted the quality of her love expression.

Jack had suggested that they go to a movie and after, go for a hamburger.  Jill agreed, but insisted on paying for the hamburgers.  Jack reluctantly agreed.  His ego was however, slightly dented.    He wanted to lead, and “show himself off,” through the entire date.  Jack picked up Jill and drove to the movie theatre.  All was going well.  They had enjoyed each others company.  At the movie theatre they had to wait in a line to buy tickets.  While waiting, Jill saw her friend James.  She excused herself and ran out of line to talk with James.  She greeted James with a huge, and talked for several minutes.  Jack was furious.  ‘How could she be so fickle, especially after I had given so much of myself to her?’  He thought Jill ungrateful in the extreme.  Jack’s frail ego was stressed, and his emotional insecurity erupted.  Even though Jack had not related to Jill in any “real” manner, for any meaningful length of time, he had invested a considerable amount of time and energy in her by way of fantasy and imagination.  She had become the subject /object of his fantasies, desires, and will.  Thus within his imagination, he and Jill were deeply related , and any slighting, real or imagined, perceived by Jack from Jill was a hammer blow to Jack’s imagined relationship with Jill.

Jill returned to her place in line with Jack.  Jack needed all of his mental restraint to make an emotionally controlled inquiry as to the identity of the boy Jill was talking with, and what was his relationship to her.  Jill immediately detected Jack’s irritation, but could not understand its cause.  Jill explained that James was her friend since elementary school.  Jack was not entirely satisfied with her explanation.  His ego still smarted.  However, he managed to bring his anger to the point of control.

They sat through the movie and after, ate without further incident.  Yet there continued to be a lingering strain or tension between them.  Jack was motivated by two desires, both relating to the expression of his sexual energy.  He wanted to “make love” with Jill to satisfy his sexual urge and imagination, and at the same time to rebuild his cracked ego.  He drove to a secluded place, parked the car and made an attempt to kiss Jill.  Jill anticipated what was coming and made no attempt to discourage the situation.  She wanted to find out what it was that was bothering Jack and to help make it better.  Also, the romantic situation excited her sexual imagination.  Their sexual energies, imagination, and cultural expectations took over.  Soon they were locked in sexual passion.

We should not become excessively interested in the outcome of Jack and Jill’s relationship.  If you understood their psychological profiles, you could easily project several credible scenarios.  The important point is to realize how sexual energy can direct the course of a relationship, especially among young people with little mental and emotional maturity.  The dynamics that initiated Jack and Jill’s relationship were centered on physical and psychological sexual attraction.  Although love was a small ingredient of their relationship it was of a selfish quality.  Pure love, in this case was at best potential.  Love, the kind of which the poets sing is scarce.  Lust however, is abundant, as Gautama the Buddha states:

“Of all the worldly passions, lust is the most intense. All other worldly passions seem to follow in its train.  Lust seems to provide the soil on which other passions flourish.  Lust is like a demon that eats up all the good deeds of the world.  Lust is the viper hiding in a flower garden; it poisons those who come in search only for beauty.”

Posted in Philosophy | Tagged , , | 1 Comment